TheBanyanTree: Heartstone

[Gloria]

Wow, Laura, your story touched me deeply and personally. Thanks so much for
sharing , as well as your reply to Tobie. Tobie, you've shared some wise
words there. Words that helped me too. Specifically, the paragraph that
describes a child's thoughts along with the question "Why do we know to
keep these secrets?". Spot on and thank you.



On Fri, Feb 4, 2022 at 1:30 PM Laura via TheBanyanTree <
thebanyantree at lists.remsset.com> wrote:

> Tobie, this made me tear up a bit. Not because it hurt me, but because
> it made me feel good. Perhaps you're right. Perhaps there is a tiny
> piece of that shiny stone still cowering in the center of the carapace.
> Not that I'll ever take it out and show it around; it might get damaged
> again, so it will stay safe and hidden.
>
> I'm always surprised when others say they've experienced the same or
> similar. I don't know why. I'm not shocked, just surprised. I used to
> think it was just me, that I somehow deserved it because I wasn't a good
> enough person. I threw that thought off decades ago, but still sometimes
> hear that tiny voice: "...if you hadn't done {whatever}, maybe they
> wouldn't have treated you like that..." at which point tiny voice gets
> slapped down and shut behind door number three.  I finally realized that
> it wasn't just me, that it was, apparently, the human condition. I think
> most people have suffered trauma at the hands of other people. People
> who have NOT suffered seem to be the rarity. And yes, Tom, it is sad.
> Social/legal/political are all the same thing, social. Legal and
> political are mirrors of the society in which they are composed.
>
> Sad, but true.
>
> Laura
> wolfljsh at gmail.com
>
> On 2/3/2022 2:27:59 PM, "tobie--- via TheBanyanTree"
> <thebanyantree at lists.remsset.com> wrote:
>
> >That you survived all that is miraculous. I hear the insistence of the
> wounds inflicted. Over the years I’ve read what you write and I can’t
> believe that you’re all so hardened and dark at the center as you think.
> It’s just that the softer the center, the harder the carapace must be to
> protect it. You say you have your partner who loves you and has never
> betrayed you. He must see you clearly, more clearly than you see yourself.
> Trust his vision. You still shine through — bright, honest,
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