TheBanyanTree: Visitation

[Pam James]

Thank you so much for sharing this Monique!  It brings me joy on so many
levels!!

On Thu, Aug 22, 2019 at 12:06 AM Monique Colver <monique.colver at gmail.com>
wrote:

> My old job is now a part time job because I can't do it full time. As it
> is, I have enough clients to occupy me part time, and couldn't do more work
> if it came to me. And it's an inside solitary job, and it's not that
> interesting.
>
> For part time work I supervise parent / child visitations. Lucky for me, a
> client needed this, asked if I could possibly do it, and so of course I
> said yes. It's good for me for several reasons. I get out more. Time ranges
> from 2 to 4 hours at a time, and I get paid for it. And mostly, I feel like
> I'm doing something useful for other people, because the child, a 12 year
> old girl, and her father need to see each other and have an excellent
> relationship. I've watched them long enough to know. The reason it has to
> be supervised is mostly BS, but the court has said so and so it is.
>
> The father currently doesn't have a car and until he has to stop paying
> attorneys for this divorce thing he probably won't, so I'm also the
> transportation.
>
> Today we had 4 hours, 3 to 7. First I picked up the father, then we went
> to pick up the child. Then he asks her what she wants to do. She wanted to
> go to a bank and turn in some coins for cash, shop for shoes for school,
> and eat. We went to a bank, and then we went to look at a couple of
> apartments because the father will be moving within the month, and he wants
> his daughter's input because they're both hoping she'll be spending time
> there.
>
> Then we went to the mall to shop for shoes. We talked about a movie, which
> would be at the mall too, but the starting times didn't fit into the
> schedule. I let them shop on their own. I like to give them time together
> without peering over their shoulders the whole time. Saturday we went for
> pizza but I sat by myself because they only had two hours together.
>
> I hung out in the food court with my IPad and food while they shopped and
> ate, somewhere, I don't even know where. Doesn't matter. When it got time
> to leave I walked back to the meeting place but was hijacked by a cosmetics
> girl at a kiosk. She put eye cream on my eyes, insisting I would look 10
> years younger. I didn't believe a word of it, but her foreign accent and
> enthusiasm won me over, so I let her talk fast and improve my eyes.
>
> Then I said I had to run off so I'd have plenty of time to meet my
> charges. Of course I didn't buy anything, despite all the incentives. I may
> Parkinson's and brain damage, but I'm not stupid.
>
> Then we took Chloe home, and then I took her father home.
>
> It's a good activity for me, and I probably like it more than I would have
> expected. I get out, I walk, I talk to people, I do something useful, and
> I'm not just sitting at my desk. Life changes.
>
> Monique
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