TheBanyanTree: Visitation

[Gloria]

Sounds wonderful for all of you! Bravo on giving them their own time. That
didn't happen here. The "supervisor" decided whether it was an indoor visit
in their office, or if it was a walk to the playground visit. She was never
more than 5-6 feet away from them. Mom had different guardians and the 3
girls went shopping, to the park, wherever kids or mom needed to go, like
to get groceries for example.  Whatever. Happy that chapter is over!

Happy you are able to do it!!!

On Thu, Aug 22, 2019 at 12:06 AM Monique Colver <monique.colver at gmail.com>
wrote:

> My old job is now a part time job because I can't do it full time. As it
> is, I have enough clients to occupy me part time, and couldn't do more work
> if it came to me. And it's an inside solitary job, and it's not that
> interesting.
>
> For part time work I supervise parent / child visitations. Lucky for me, a
> client needed this, asked if I could possibly do it, and so of course I
> said yes. It's good for me for several reasons. I get out more. Time ranges
> from 2 to 4 hours at a time, and I get paid for it. And mostly, I feel like
> I'm doing something useful for other people, because the child, a 12 year
> old girl, and her father need to see each other and have an excellent
> relationship. I've watched them long enough to know. The reason it has to
> be supervised is mostly BS, but the court has said so and so it is.
>
> The father currently doesn't have a car and until he has to stop paying
> attorneys for this divorce thing he probably won't, so I'm also the
> transportation.
>
> Today we had 4 hours, 3 to 7. First I picked up the father, then we went
> to pick up the child. Then he asks her what she wants to do. She wanted to
> go to a bank and turn in some coins for cash, shop for shoes for school,
> and eat. We went to a bank, and then we went to look at a couple of
> apartments because the father will be moving within the month, and he wants
> his daughter's input because they're both hoping she'll be spending time
> there.
>
> Then we went to the mall to shop for shoes. We talked about a movie, which
> would be at the mall too, but the starting times didn't fit into the
> schedule. I let them shop on their own. I like to give them time together
> without peering over their shoulders the whole time. Saturday we went for
> pizza but I sat by myself because they only had two hours together.
>
> I hung out in the food court with my IPad and food while they shopped and
> ate, somewhere, I don't even know where. Doesn't matter. When it got time
> to leave I walked back to the meeting place but was hijacked by a cosmetics
> girl at a kiosk. She put eye cream on my eyes, insisting I would look 10
> years younger. I didn't believe a word of it, but her foreign accent and
> enthusiasm won me over, so I let her talk fast and improve my eyes.
>
> Then I said I had to run off so I'd have plenty of time to meet my
> charges. Of course I didn't buy anything, despite all the incentives. I may
> Parkinson's and brain damage, but I'm not stupid.
>
> Then we took Chloe home, and then I took her father home.
>
> It's a good activity for me, and I probably like it more than I would have
> expected. I get out, I walk, I talk to people, I do something useful, and
> I'm not just sitting at my desk. Life changes.
>
> Monique
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