TheBanyanTree: Out of Character

[Monique Colver]

I'm so sorry for your loss, Jim. It's always a loss, no matter how long
ago.

xoxo




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On Thu, Aug 7, 2014 at 12:24 PM, Jim Miller <jim at maze.cc> wrote:

> Well said Monique. As I have told you, I do not know depression. I can only
> learn from words like yours.
>
> I am one of those who only saw suicide as a selfish act. It leaves such a
> devastating impact on everyone they knew. And yet, as you said, we can
> never know the mind of the person committing the act.
>
> I reversed my stand, if only moderately changed my opinion, about 25 years
> ago, when a close friend took his life. Everyone said, "it was out of
> character". Ted was a successful businessman. He was incredibly handsome
> with a beautiful wife and family. Ted was on the church board, lead men's
> studies and was respected by everyone.
>
> Later, we learned that Ted and his family knew of his depression and were
> working through it. The morning of his death Ted and his wife went to the
> therapist, who announced that they were making good progress. When they
> returned home, he walked into his office, closed the door, put a shotgun
> under his chin and pulled the trigger.
>
> I miss him today. We can not know the why. All the speculation in the world
> will not provide one synapse impulse of resolution. Love the person, love
> the family. The clock never goes backward and neither can we.
>
>
> On Thu, Aug 7, 2014 at 9:49 AM, Monique Colver <monique.colver at gmail.com>
> wrote:
>
> > Home <http://mcolver.wordpress.com/> » Uncategorized
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> Character
> > Out of Character
> > Posted on August 7, 2014
> > <http://mcolver.wordpress.com/2014/08/07/out-of-character/> by Monique
> > Colver <http://mcolver.wordpress.com/author/mcolver/>
> >
> > Jennifer Huston has been found, her death ruled a suicide.
> >
> > Missing Woman Found
> > <
> >
> http://www.opb.org/news/blog/newsblog/missing-dundee-mothers-body-vehicle-located-in-yamhill-county/
> > >
> >
> > Her husband says it’s out of character for his wife.
> >
> > Of course it is.
> >
> >
>