TheBanyanTree: It never rains

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I so appreciate what you have to say.  I missed being there for my mother's last moments, but having been there to care for her for an exhausting month as she declined took the wind out of my sails.  I never found the emotional detachment, nor have I yet some 6 months later.  Thank you for sharing.
J
 
 

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 From: Kitty Park <mzzkitty at gmail.com>
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Sent: Wednesday, September 11, 2013 6:32 AM
Subject: Re: TheBanyanTree: It never rains
  

Peter, you say "day-to-day stuff is beyond my ken."  For me, being involved
in the day-to-day decline of my husband made what was inevitable less
emotional for me.  For those who may find themselves caregivers for the
terminally ill or simply may be curious about the dying process, I strongly
recommend the booklet *Gone From My Sight* (
https://www.bkbooks.com/shop/gone<https://www.bkbooks.com/shop/gone-my-sight>
-my-sight <https://www.bkbooks.com/shop/gone-my-sight> ).  I was given a
copy by my husband's visiting nurse when he began in-home hospice care.

Roy's death became a physical process as I witnessed his progression
through the steps and emotion was set aside as I focused on his care and
comfort.  I regard that year, and particularly those last weeks with him,
as a gift.  It was an experience I will remember and am continually
thankful for.  I learned so much about his strengths and mine.

Janice, I admire you for acknowledging your mother's condition and
prognosis.  You have your own issues to work around but still are making
time to visit with her as you are able.

Kitty
<mzzkitty at gmail.com>kcp-parkplace.blogspot.com
<http://parkplaceohio.com>



On Wed, Sep 11, 2013 at 5:13 AM, Peter Macinnis <
petermacinnis at ozemail.com.au> wrote:

> On 11/09/2013 17:11, Janice Money wrote:
>
>> On top of everything else, my mother is dying.
>>
>
> I was there eight years ago.  It must be worse when you know what is going
> on.  I know my science forwards, backwards and sideways, but the day-to-day
> stuff is beyond my ken.
>
> In some ways, ignorance is bliss.
>
> peter
>
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