TheBanyanTree: a million ways

[smack58 at nycap.rr.com]

I'm with you.  Not just my two sons (31 & 27) but my older daughters and grandchildren as well.  The girls and grandkids live in Baltimore but I am always sending little things to all of them.  Why wait for Christmas and holidays I always say.  The readers I send books, the cookers, I send cookbooks and the baby (18 months) I send her toys and books.  The last book I sent to her, her mother read to her a dozen times and she carried it around all day and took it to bed with her.  She's so cute!!

My eldest son is in LA but we are in daily touch via phone or FB; but it's the youngest that is here.  He does know how to cook but for the most part says he's too tired at the end of a long hard, hot work day.  He and his roommate solved some of the problem by getting a juicer (which is why I take a lot of fruits and veggies his way).  But I worry if that is all he is having, but he says not to...that if he's still hungry he knows what to do.  At least he doesn't eat crap-food.  He likes the healthy stuff.  :)

Sharon


---- Julie Anna Teague <jateague at indiana.edu> wrote: 
Quoting smack58 at nycap.rr.com:

> OMG!!!!  This IS my son!  It just has to be.  Same scenario exactly.
> He lives 30 minutes away and still comes for weekend dinners
> sometimes (gas is hard for him to come by and I stopped paying for
> it), but I can't help but indulge him on occasion at the grocery
> store with good fruits and veggies.

And that will be me.  His house is between the farmer's market and my 
house--easy to just drop a few things off on Saturday mornings.  
Feeding people is part of the way I show love. I try not to step on his 
toes or be in his face every day and to give him some space, but we are 
close and so we are both used to a lot interaction.  Husband thinks I'm 
ridiculous.  When his son moved out, he called him maybe once a month, 
often less.  Months would go by without word from the boy.  We never 
even traveled to Baltimore when my stepson lived there for a year and a 
half, despite me saying over and over that we should go.  Husband said 
he was "giving him his space."  I seriously doubt whether I could ever 
let a month lapse without talking to my sons.  I'm just not that kind 
of parent, and whether they like it or not, my boys are used to me 
being the kind of parent I am.