TheBanyanTree: a million ways

[Julie Anna Teague]

Quoting smack58 at nycap.rr.com:

> OMG!!!!  This IS my son!  It just has to be.  Same scenario exactly.
> He lives 30 minutes away and still comes for weekend dinners
> sometimes (gas is hard for him to come by and I stopped paying for
> it), but I can't help but indulge him on occasion at the grocery
> store with good fruits and veggies.

And that will be me.  His house is between the farmer's market and my 
house--easy to just drop a few things off on Saturday mornings.  
Feeding people is part of the way I show love. I try not to step on his 
toes or be in his face every day and to give him some space, but we are 
close and so we are both used to a lot interaction.  Husband thinks I'm 
ridiculous.  When his son moved out, he called him maybe once a month, 
often less.  Months would go by without word from the boy.  We never 
even traveled to Baltimore when my stepson lived there for a year and a 
half, despite me saying over and over that we should go.  Husband said 
he was "giving him his space."  I seriously doubt whether I could ever 
let a month lapse without talking to my sons.  I'm just not that kind 
of parent, and whether they like it or not, my boys are used to me 
being the kind of parent I am.