TheBanyanTree: Grrrrrrrr . . .

[NancyIee at aol.com]

In a message dated 3/12/2010 4:20:01 A.M. Eastern Standard Time,  
pmon3694 at bigpond.net.au writes:

What I  am up to is the job of badgering my husband to have a word in Tom's
ear,  when he comes back, about the responsibility men have as fathers  and
husbands.  




It sounds as though that poor woman is frazzled by those children. Those  
kids truly have the world in their control, and she is not up to the task of  
changing things.  She may have become overpowered by their behaviors, and  
found it easier just to ignore it, and let them have their way rather than 
the  struggle to maintain control. Tom, however good as he might be with 
them, may be  tired of coming home and spending his time retraining them every 
visit. The  family clearly needs respite and help in getting things in order.
 
That is what I think about when I am tempted to take on the responsibility  
of more kids in my life. When I was a young thing, I had my own four, and 
there  were times when I was tested and perhaps bested. I love the idea of 
giving  abandoned and needy children a good home, but know my current limits 
of  tolerance and wonder if I should leave the raising of children to those 
younger  and more able to cope with the breakage and rebellion.
 
Thanks for your response to my note.
 
NancyLee