TheBanyanTree: indulgence

[NancyIee at aol.com]

Interesting, Dave,
 
I would probably spend much of my time paddling frantically from one island  
to the other.  I'm pretty much an enabler; I play well with others, but  with 
those I love, I mostly try to accommodate them so they are happy, and when  I 
am fed up and say no, and gaily troop of to do my own thing, I become a  
dipshit and am accused of being selfish. I don't want to be labeled selfish, so  I 
let them stomp again.  I suppose that makes me eligible for the self-hate  
island. I am much more fun as a dipshit, and like that role. lol.  Welcome  to 
the undeciders' island.
 
If I get down enough to contemplate getting off the boat altogether, I  
simply remember how much fun it is to be a dipshit.  How could I possibly  leave 
all those nice folks undipshitted?
 
I formerly was a teacher of mentally challenged children.  Now there's  pure 
innocence. They are almost always happy, and like everyone. Not a mean or  
selfish or vindictive bone in their bodies. With them I was neither enabler nor  
dipshit. I could also be happy and unknowing, and we could spend the day 
trying  to tie shoes or name colors. Their artwork came as pure and colorful as  
laughter, and every success was mind-bending. Now, as adults, when I meet them,  
where they work happily as cart boys in the grocery store, or tending plants 
and  picking tomatoes in the "productive adults' garden center' they are still 
 totally happy and loving. No matter they still can't tie their shoes, they 
are  blissfully contented.  If it were not that they are so easily duped and  
cheated, it would be a perfect world.
 
But, that's yet another island.
 
Today I think I will be an enabler.  It's pretty easy. and I can do  all my 
therapy by mumbling under my breath or going home and chopping wood. A  friend 
needs 'someone' to haul stuff to a coming church garage sale. I have  a little 
pickup, and other plans, but guess what? . . . Another friend seems to  need 
my 'permission' and blessing to date a fellow I really detest. It's her  life, 
but he's really not nice. Enabler or dipshit, what shall I be?
 
NancyLee
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