TheBanyanTree: Silly admin stuff

Mon Jan 16 10:55:41 PST 2023

Paul~e_e, thanks so much for continuing to keep us afloat. It’s a labor of
love and I appreciate it.

As for me, I’ve recovered from Covid fine, except for the way my blood
sugar will drop so abruptly leaving me weak & dizzy until I eat. Scotty had
that same issue after having had Covid. We’re still waiting for him to get
a fluoroscopy needle biopsy. It’s taking so long, the underlying tension is
getting to me.

This morning I am battling my hurt feelings and deep annoyance over Glenn
popping over to visit his daughter & son-in-law without me for the upteenth
time. I can’t wrap my head around why I am not invited to go with him. I
always make sure he knows he is welcome and expected to come with me when
we go to Chelsea & Chad’s. It’s a given. It feels like the natural & normal
thing to do.

But, he is so possessive of his daughter. Who couldn’t be bothered to visit
her father for Thanksgiving or Christmas. She & I had a small dust-up over
that. She began to get all het up self-righteous and thought she could yell
at me. I calmly and firmly told her that I would not continue our
discussion if she yelled at me. She apologized and we had an excellent
discussion during which she agreed to see a counselor. She has several
emotional wounds that need the help of a professional. I keep praying she
will make the appointment. I keep sending small gifts and cards of
encouragement, not nudgy though.

Glenn has her on this Princess Pedestal. Which also annoys me. Jim & I
didn’t raise Chelsea to believe she is a Princess. Or daddy’s little
princess. So, I have a hard time understanding that mindset. And, I realize
I am being a bit judgmental about it. I’m working on that.

I’ve told him that I want to go visit them. It’s gotten me nowhere. I think
it’s because when I have gone in the past (when we first met) Katie talks
to me a lot. I think he feels like he gets so little time with her and so
it’s hard to share her. She and her husband spend 85% of their time over at
his parents house. And, she posts on FB about the great times they have.
Along with posts about things they do with her mom. I think it hurts him a
lot to be so left out.

But, he doesn’t place any expectations on his daughter or son. He says he
doesn’t want to guilt them into spending time with him. I get that, but I
also understand the normal level of expectations that relatives, especially
parents, place on their children, specifically around holidays. By not
placing one single expectation he leaves this void. And, of course they go
where expectations are present. Does that make sense?

I’m really struggling with the issue of not ever being invited to visit
Katie & Mason. How can I ever get to know them better if I am never allowed
around them? Mason and I get along really well. As do Katie & I.

I think I should bring it up to Glenn again that it would be nice if I was
invited at least every 3rd or 4th visit. What do y’all think?

On Fri, Jan 13, 2023 at 9:43 AM Teague, Julie Anna via TheBanyanTree <
thebanyantree at lists.remsset.com> wrote:

> Hi Robin!  I planted two zuccs last summer and started having neighbors
> avoid me in the street.  At one point I asked the husband what he'd like
> for dinner, and he replied, "Anything that doesn't have zucchini in it."
> Ha.
>
> Julie
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: TheBanyanTree <thebanyantree-bounces at lists.remsset.com> On Behalf
> Of Robin Tennant-Wood via TheBanyanTree
> Sent: Thursday, January 12, 2023 10:41 PM
> To: A comfortable place to meet other people and exchange your own
> *original* writings. <thebanyantree at lists.remsset.com>
> Cc: Robin Tennant-Wood <rtennantwood at gmail.com>
> Subject: Re: TheBanyanTree: Silly admin stuff
>
> Hi Paul
>
> I had no idea those lists of Roger's were still in existence. I think he
> was pretty well the lynchpin on them and without him leading the
> discussions they've fallen into the void.
>
> After a couple of false starts summer has finally arrived here in the
> south-east. My dahlias are starting to flower and my summer vegie garden is
> looking great. In a couple of weeks time I'll be leaving zucchinis on
> people's front steps under cover of darkness. I know the rule is only to
> plant one zucchini, but they always look so cute and innocent as seedlings
> that one tends to forget that by mid-January if you turn your back on them,
> you'll have half a dozen torpedo-sized zucchinis lurking under the leaves.
>
> cheers
>
> Robin
>
> On Fri, 13 Jan 2023 at 09:36, paul via TheBanyanTree <
> thebanyantree at lists.remsset.com> wrote:
>
> > Just poking around....
> >
> > Roger had me create a couple of lists for him.  They do zero anymore.
> >   The lists will be deleted in a couple of weeks.  I tire of the spam
> > mail.
> >
> > For the Tree, there were several "no mail" addresses.  Yeah, You're
> > getting mail now.  If it's a invalid address it will bounce eventually.
> >
> > Other than that, there's not much happening over here.  I'm still
> > beating Win11 into submission and I think I'm winning.
> >
> > paul
> >
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