TheBanyanTree: One Day, Two Funerals

[Monique Colver]

(My brain acts erratically these days!)

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Monique Colver
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On Tue, Sep 14, 2021 at 4:41 PM Dale Parish via TheBanyanTree <
thebanyantree at lists.remsset.com> wrote:

> Roger.
> Hugs,
> Dale
>
> On Tue, Sep 14, 2021 at 18:26 Monique Colve via TheBanyanTree <
> thebanyantree at lists.remsset.com> wrote:
>
> > This wasn't supposed to go anywhere, so please discard.
> >
> > Monique
> > Sent from my iPad
> >
> > > On Sep 14, 2021, at 2:22 PM, Monique Colve via TheBanyanTree <
> > thebanyantree at lists.remsset.com> wrote:
> > >
> > > First of all,they were ash dispersal, so maybe I shouldn't call them
> > funerals.
> > >
> > > My stepmom died at 60, and my father kept her ashes in a fancy urn in
> > his closet for the next twenty-something years. When he died, remembering
> > his wife's funeral when his four surviving kids had taken on the cost of
> > paying for her funeral, he had prepaid for his cremation, and then we had
> > two sets of ashes.
> > >
> > > Sometime later, Jeff, the only one of the 7 of us who was the child of
> > both my stepmom and my dad, decided on a ceremony to disperse the ashes.
> > There had been no service for my dad
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > >
> > > When my stepmother died at the early age of 60, it was a shock to us
> > all. For 20 years my dad had been predicted to die soon, any day now.
> He'd
> > had 2 heart attacks and a stroke, or vice versa. Whatever it was, it did
> > not kill him. It did cause him to take early retirement from his
> brother's
> > electrical supply, but after a while dad just started his own cabinet
> > business. It was easier than driving back and forth from Big Bear Lake to
> > Lynwood, which was an excessively long drive.
> > >
> > > Her heart exploded in the middle of the night, and my dad followed the
> > ambulance in his own vehicle. A block from the hospital the ambulance
> > lights turned off and it slowed down. My dad knew what that meant, so
> there
> > was no surprise when he got to the hospital. I can see him there, all
> > alone, being told what he already knew, sitting in the plastic
> > uncomfortable seats. He would have called Mike first, his oldest
> surviving
> > son, or Patty, his oldest daughter. Someone called me in the morning,
> > hundreds of miles away. I flew down that day and was picked up by Mike
> and
> > his wife.
> > >
> > > Her funeral was big due to her status in the committee. People stood
> > outside to hear the service. It was appropriately ostentatious, which she
> > would have loved.
> > >
> > > I had helped my dad write something, but he couldn't bear to stand and
> > read it, so I agreed to
> > >
> > > My father Merritt
> > > Monique
> > > Sent from my iPad
> >
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> — Dale M. Parish 628 Parish RD Orange TX 77632-0264 (409) 790-2352
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