TheBanyanTree: One Day, Two Funerals

[Dale Parish]

Roger.
Hugs,
Dale

On Tue, Sep 14, 2021 at 18:26 Monique Colve via TheBanyanTree <
thebanyantree at lists.remsset.com> wrote:

> This wasn't supposed to go anywhere, so please discard.
>
> Monique
> Sent from my iPad
>
> > On Sep 14, 2021, at 2:22 PM, Monique Colve via TheBanyanTree <
> thebanyantree at lists.remsset.com> wrote:
> >
> > First of all,they were ash dispersal, so maybe I shouldn't call them
> funerals.
> >
> > My stepmom died at 60, and my father kept her ashes in a fancy urn in
> his closet for the next twenty-something years. When he died, remembering
> his wife's funeral when his four surviving kids had taken on the cost of
> paying for her funeral, he had prepaid for his cremation, and then we had
> two sets of ashes.
> >
> > Sometime later, Jeff, the only one of the 7 of us who was the child of
> both my stepmom and my dad, decided on a ceremony to disperse the ashes.
> There had been no service for my dad
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> >
> > When my stepmother died at the early age of 60, it was a shock to us
> all. For 20 years my dad had been predicted to die soon, any day now. He'd
> had 2 heart attacks and a stroke, or vice versa. Whatever it was, it did
> not kill him. It did cause him to take early retirement from his brother's
> electrical supply, but after a while dad just started his own cabinet
> business. It was easier than driving back and forth from Big Bear Lake to
> Lynwood, which was an excessively long drive.
> >
> > Her heart exploded in the middle of the night, and my dad followed the
> ambulance in his own vehicle. A block from the hospital the ambulance
> lights turned off and it slowed down. My dad knew what that meant, so there
> was no surprise when he got to the hospital. I can see him there, all
> alone, being told what he already knew, sitting in the plastic
> uncomfortable seats. He would have called Mike first, his oldest surviving
> son, or Patty, his oldest daughter. Someone called me in the morning,
> hundreds of miles away. I flew down that day and was picked up by Mike and
> his wife.
> >
> > Her funeral was big due to her status in the committee. People stood
> outside to hear the service. It was appropriately ostentatious, which she
> would have loved.
> >
> > I had helped my dad write something, but he couldn't bear to stand and
> read it, so I agreed to
> >
> > My father Merritt
> > Monique
> > Sent from my iPad
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— Dale M. Parish 628 Parish RD Orange TX 77632-0264 (409) 790-2352