TheBanyanTree: I'm Sorry

[Julie Anna Teague]

Quoting Monique Colver <monique.colver at gmail.com>:

> When the scandal first broke and there was talk of Woods' wife physically
> abusing him women everywhere were cheering her on, as if physical abuse is
> excusable if one (a woman, particularly) has a good reason for it. If the
> situation were reversed there wouldn't have been such talk, would there? Not
> likely. I found this appalling. Why are we so quick to reward behavior that
> we would condemn if the situation were reversed? Woods publicly denied this
> happened, and I'll take his word for it.

I would agree with you a hundred percent that spousal abuse is not 
justifiable under any conditions.  On the other hand, if I found out my 
husband had slept with many women and not told me, and then had come 
home and slept with me, bringing the possibility of AIDS into my life 
when I had two young children, I would feel an overwhelming urge to hit 
him with anything at hand. I think I could become enraged and violent 
under those circumstances.  Casual sex with others who are having 
casual sex with others beyond that, in this day and age, is a risky 
dangerous game, and to be drawn into that risky dangerous game 
unwittingly is beyond excusable.  I've not led a perfect life by any 
means.  I have not always done the right thing, but I have never put 
someone else in the position of possibly paying with their lives for my 
mistakes.