TheBanyanTree: Life Stories 203

[NancyIee at aol.com]

You were right on with this posting.  I have occasionally mused this  same 
subject.  I, too, thought my life would be perfect if I only found my  soul 
mate, my prince charming.  I thought I found him in my sophomore year  in high 
school, but he was only after one thing.  I dated a different man  in my senior 
year, and the chemistry was intense.  He did not want to go  steady,much less 
think of something more permanent. He only wanted one  thing.
 
At my mother's urging, I joined a sorority when I went to the  university.  
She felt it was the perfect venue for meeting the right man,  meaning, someone 
who had the future promise to afford me. Frat boys. Future  doctors and 
engineers.  They only wanted one thing. But, I married one of  them, the engineer 
guy.  He was not too aggressive, and I felt I could have  at least half a vote 
in serious matters.  He only wanted one thing , ,and  that served to give me 
children. I was brought up to get married and have  children. So, I got married 
and had children.  And raised them.  And  my husband, within the marriage, had 
not a clue that he was no longer the frat  boy, and continued with his sports 
cars and extravagant hobbies.  I had no  clue how to make a marriage, so I 
buried my life in children and the raising  thereof.
  And now, decades later, we are divorced, and better friends than  when we 
were married. I no longer have to worry about his extravagance and  dangerous 
hobbies, and he no longer has to accompany me to the opera and  shopping and 
kayaking trips or horse shows.
   I spend my people-time with close friends.  And, with one  special friend, 
a woman, who comes as close to being a soul mate as any man I  have ever 
known.  To be a soul mate, one has to have a viable soul, don't  you think?  And, 
many men never cultivate that portion of their  mentality.
I have my special woman friend, and my ex.   And, I live alone  most of the 
time and am comfortable in that.



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