TheBanyanTree: What's up. What's down

[Monique]

My dear Tobie said,

	So I put my announcement in Craig's List and in Jdate (Jewish 
dating over the internet).  I was swamped with replies.  What on 
earth could have been going on!?  I told them how old I am (56) and 
how I'm not ready to take on a replacement or a lover, but just to go 
out for coffee, maybe a movie, a museum, an art gallery, a lecture 
.... a piece of life outside the basement.  Later, maybe I'll be 
ready for more.  After the stitches fall out, but not before.


I do not know what is going on, but had similar results with Craig, though I
am not in Craigslist main territory, but more a suburb of Craigslist
territory -- how does one meet people these days anyway? Especially if one
is searching for someone quite outside one's normal sphere? (Some people
have circles, I have spheres.) How it happened was all rather unexpected,
and perhaps because from the beginning this particular ad was no more than a
joke played on the unsuspecting, something to amuse myself while I pondered
what I was going to do next and ran other "legitimate" ads, the joke ad has
netted me an absolutely wonderful relationship with someone who I would
never have come across in the normal course of events. How could I? He is
absolutely sane and rational, which rather concerns me as my experience with
sane and rational is rather limited and I'm not sure how to act around that,
though luckily sane and rational does not exclude goofy and odd, which would
be perfectly at odds with me anyway . . . . so I'm having to learn how to do
these sorts of things as normal people would do them. Quite a learning
curve. Anyway, that's beside the point. The point being, I'm glad you're
here Tobie, and there, and there are good and sane people to be met -- there
are also insane and not so good people to be met, but we just screen those
out and toss them aside so we can get to the good stuff. Yes, get a piece of
life outside the basement. 

And then tell us what it's like.

Love,

Monique