TheBanyanTree: Nobody Wins

Fri Sep 23 15:55:58 PDT 2011

Roger,

Shortly after the shooting, John tried to take his own life.  He couldn't live with the fact that suicide or not, HE was the one that pulled the trigger.  Luckily a neighbor found him and called 911 before there was another tragedy.

There was no trial.  John instructed the attorney that he was paying him and this was how it was going to be.  Even the judge knew that something wasn't right.  He gave John three different times during the plea hearing to come out with the full details.  John stood firm and kept to his shortened version.  The judges last try, he said, "Do you understand that I can put you behind bars for a maximum of 15 long hard years?"  John just answered, "Yes Sir."  He just wanted to start paying for his act.  The act that took his best friend away.

Sheri L Baity
Crows Nest Calls
www.crowsnestcalls.com

American Predator Federation
"Where Predator Hunters Are Forming A Pack"
http://www.huntapf.org

A woman is like a tea bag, you never know how strong she is until she gets in hot water~~Eleanor Roosevelt

--- On Fri, 9/23/11, Roger <woodcatau at gmail.com> wrote:

From: Roger <woodcatau at gmail.com>
Subject: Re: TheBanyanTree: Nobody Wins
To: "A comfortable place to meet other people and exchange your own *original* writings." <thebanyantree at lists.remsset.com>
Date: Friday, September 23, 2011, 6:35 PM

Sheri,

Truth will out, make no mistake. I'm going to tell you about someone I'm
treating right now. Helen (not her real name) was sexually abused by a
favourite uncle from when she was 18 months old through to about 3 or 4 when
her mother realised something odd was happening. Helen's mind wiped the
memories away until she was 28 then she began remembering bits and pieces.
Gradually her life fell apart as she put what she could remember together
and second-guessed the rest. She became confused, uncertain, 'forgot' how to
drive, couldn't find her way around familiar places, became very very tired
yet did not/could not sleep well. She was diagnosed with Chornic Fatigue
Syndrome and the condition plagued her for the next 14 years. About age 35
she met her husband. All attempts at her having a baby failed. Six years ago
she had a little girl by IVF. Three years ago she went into remission but
the symptoms began coming back six months ago. She is determined to be
healthy again and what I am doing is working but it will be a long haul.
Having stabilised her so the symptoms will gradually fade in strength, we
are interactively exploring her early life using counselling, story-telling,
reiki and energy divination techniques.

John should have told the truth - inevitably the truth will come out in one
way or another and no one can estimate what damage that will cause other
than a lot - and although 5 years is not a long time the stigma of it will
remain with him the rest of his life and taint those who are or become close
to him. It surprises me that his attorney didn't try harder to get him to
tell what really happened. Because, let's face it, Joe committed suicide
using John as the weapon. What a lousy thing to do to anybody, let alone a
good friend!  What about Ray - he was a witness - what was his story to the
court?

Roger

On Sat, Sep 24, 2011 at 5:12 AM, Sheri Baity <sheribaity at yahoo.com> wrote:

>
>
> NOBODY WINS…
>
> “Dad… I just killed my best friend… I pulled the trigger Dad… I killed him…
> I’m in jail Dad” came a sobbing, uncontrollable voice on the other end of
> the phone.
>
> At that very split second, two lives will be forever changed. At that
> instant two Father’s and a Mother’s life will spin out of control like a
> horrible nightmare, a version of life that they never saw coming.
>
> Both boys came from good homes. Promising future for John, 22, that pulled
> the trigger. Not so promising for Joe, 23.
>
> A Friday evening and the boys decided to celebrate John’s soon graduation
> from college. Joe called up John and their other buddy Ray to his apartment.
> As they broke open the case of beer Joe began to go over his life and wonder
> how he was going to tell his parents of the past year. Talking to his
> buddies he just couldn’t figure a way out of the web he had spun.
>
> John kept on trying to tell Joe that he would help in anyway he could. He
> even offered to go with him when the time came to tell his parents, but the
> alcohol wasn’t allowing Joe to think clearly, the more bottles he put down.
>
> Joe has been living a lie to his parents over the past 9 monthes. Because
> of his age and the state he lived in, his grades in college were his
> business and didn’t have to, by law, be shared with his parents. He had
> flunked out of college and kept it to himself. His parents were sending
> money every month for his apartment rent and stuff and knew no different. He
> started drinking his life away, partying every day if his finances held out.
> Keeping a job was pretty much few and far between. Coming from a wealthy
> family, it would be unacceptable in his parents eyes. He saw no way of
> facing the inevitable.
>
> Joe got out his gun that night and was showing it to Ray. Ray looked it
> over both inside and out and saw it was not loaded. Joe got to shouting and
> got louder and louder and went to the bathroom with the gun. He came back
> out a few minutes later still shouting crazy things how he couldn’t face his
> family, his life was over and he just wanted it to end inside his head.
>
> He handed John the gun and told him it wasn’t loaded, to pull the trigger
> and see how sweet it clicks. John said no, but the more he said no, the
> madder Joe got. Leaning into the gun and shouting, he hollared again saying
> one more time… “It’s not loaded Dude, feel the sweetness in that trigger!”
>
> John then pulled the trigger…
>
> Ray hollared out to Joe as he fell to the floor… “Dude… why did you load
> the gun??!!??”
>
> That was the end to Joe’s troubles. That was the end to John’s future.
>
> John said nothing to no one, only his attorney and his close family of
> Joe’s troubles, but made them promise not to let it get to Joe’s parents
> about Joe’s situation. He was crushed and knew they were crushed and didn’t
> want to tarnish their memory of their son.
>
> John didn’t want Joe’s parents to go through a trial either, so he plead
> guilty. John with a college degree and a career job he had to leave, sets in
> prison for 5 years.
>
> Where does anyone in this mess find balance, closure, a medium? Two
> wonderful families… forever changed… Nobody Wins… Everybody Loses…
> Sheri L Baity
> Crows Nest Calls
> www.crowsnestcalls.com
>
> American Predator Federation
> "Where Predator Hunters Are Forming A Pack"
> http://www.huntapf.org
>
> A woman is like a tea bag, you never know how strong she is until she gets
> in hot water~~Eleanor Roosevelt
>