TheBanyanTree: Feeling My Emotions

[NancyIee at aol.com]

In a message dated 10/18/05 12:38:06 PM Eastern Daylight Time, 
mspatmartin at shaw.ca writes:
Andrew, on the other hand, is actively involved in a singles' club and is 
dating.
Good for him, and I really mean that.  He's moving on; I'm still trying to 
find a
direction, a vista, that feels right.
You know, I think you have  been trying a path ot two without really knowing 
it. You struckj out to help those in another country, betting on the hand 
dealt you.  If ytour path took you away from your husband, perhaps it was you who 
outgrew him.

It's a rather common phenomena, women of  "a certain age" who, nearing 
retirement, discover how short life is, and want to DO something before it's too 
late.  If  hubby and family can't be supportive or at least pretend to 
understand, then, the woman either gives in to become "granny by the fire" or a woman 
who sails her own ship.

After decades of marriage, and seeing my kids grow and become responsible 
adults, I chose to strike out on my own. My marriage did not survive, but I did. 
My ex was a good husband, but  my life changed after my role as "Mom" changed. 
I needed to fnd my own path, to dare the things I had put on hold all those 
decades. I didn't let my dreams stay buried. I dug them up and am seeing if 
they can be reached, after all.


NancyLee